Most of us misunderstand what causes feeling.
It’s pretty common for people to believe that things that happen outside of us create what we feel. Stop and look at the last time you were upset... What caused that feeling?
If you’re tempted to say, “I was so upset because we lost the game” or “I was so upset because of the way she treated me” or even “I was so upset because...”—anything that happened outside of you—It’s time to change your thoughts.
It does take some work, but once we take responsibility of own our feelings, we can realize that the reason we are upset is because of what we are thinking about a circumstance!
I know it sounds easy, but it isn’t... That’s why I’m here!
A life coach helps us recognize what thoughts we think and what thoughts are making us upset. I have a simple formula that works for everyone!
It can help you understand what thoughts are causing what feelings. It really is helpful to have a life coach help you sort it out!
There is no judgment.
There is no pressure.
There is just pure joy that comes when you realize how you can take back the power in your life.
It is a myth that sometimes things happen in life that make us feel anxious or upset. It’s always what we are thinking about what happens that brings on anxiousness or anger. These emotions don’t just magically happen.
Yes, it’s not always easy to own our emotions and thoughts, but understanding this one concept can be life changing because when we realize we have the power to choose the thoughts that actually change our lives, we take back all of our power!
For example, we should be kind to other people so we don’t hurt their feelings. Rather, we should be kind to other people because when we are kind, we get to think good thoughts about ourselves and therefore, feel good. We are not in charge of how other people feel.
Mom and Dad get frustrated when they’re teens, break the rules and don’t come home on time. Instead, Mom and Dad get frustrated because of what they are thinking is happening when their teens are out late andworry because of the thoughts they are thinking.
Teens get upset when they don’t get their way. This is simply nottrue. Teens get upset when they think thoughts about not gettingtheir way.
When people are mean to me, it hurts my feelings. Again, myfeelings get hurt when I think people are saying or doing meanthings to me, even though they may not even know it seemsmean to me.
When someone compliments me, it makes me feel good.Instead, when someone compliments me, my thoughts aboutthe kind things they say make me feel good. If I don’t believethem or agree, I don’t even get to feel good. Aftersomeone said something nice to me, I miss out.
When your teacher or professor assigned a lotof homework, it stresses the students out.Rather, students feel stressed out when theythink thoughts about their professors or about allthe time it takes to do the homework. The teacherdoes not cause the stress.
Yes, it’s not always easy to own our emotions andthoughts, but understanding this one concept canbe life changing because when we realize we havethe power to choose the thoughts that actuallychange our lives, we take back all of our power!